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QC Misses AdventureMan

When AdventureMan goes out the door, the Qatteri Cat doesn’t alway realize he is gone for a few minutes. Then I hear him crying, crying as he runs in to our bed, grabs his teddy-bear-baby and takes it to the door. He cries for a few minutes, and then leaves the baby there.

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He is always sad when AdventureMan leaves. He sleeps a lot, just waiting for him to come home. He knows when it is about time. I always know when he is nearby because suddenly Qatteri Cat is on full alert, ears straight up, eyes big – and he jumps down and runs to the door, even before the key is in the lock.

Hurry home, AdventureMan!

March 7, 2009 Posted by | Adventure, Family Issues, Marriage, Pets, Qatteri Cat | 4 Comments

NWB Additions to the Great Kuwait National Holiday Challenge

Woo HOOO, NWB, and love the photos!

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March 3, 2009 Posted by | Arts & Handicrafts, Beauty, Entertainment, Events, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Holiday, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Photos | | 1 Comment

Sheer Bliss: The Great Kuwait National Holiday Challenge

Q8Dutchie gave permission to add this one National Day Holiday Challenge photo, which in my heart I call Sheer Bliss. Grown-ups think the foam thing is awful. Children think the foam thing is wonderful (unless they get some in they eyes, or some jerk is spraying insecticide, or hair removal creme, or . . .)

OOps! Not the time and place for my soapbox! Especially with the joy in this photo!
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I love the way she captured the action going in the background while, for one instant, this one little girl stands still. 🙂 Well done, Q8Dutchie!

March 3, 2009 Posted by | Arts & Handicrafts, Beauty, Character, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Holiday, Living Conditions, Photos | | 6 Comments

The Wedding at Cana

This is one of my favorite readings in the Gospels, for all it’s humanity. Some scholars theorize that the wedding was close family – from living here, I had to eliminate all the European paintings which show the men and women celebrating together – I am guessing the wedding feast would be more like the ones held here; men and women celebrating separately.

Disaster – there isn’t enough wine for the guests. Mary goes to her son and tells him “there isn’t enough wine.” He responds with “Mom! I’m not ready!” I imagine her giving him a long, level look and then turning to the servants and saying “Do whatever he tells you to do.” She is his Mom, after all. And, ready or not, he honors his Mom, and the wine is good.

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The Wedding at Cana

John 2:1-12

2 On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. 2 Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. 3 When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ 4 And Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ 5 His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ 6 Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. 7 Jesus said to them, ‘Fill the jars with water.’ And they filled them up to the brim. 8 He said to them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it. 9 When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom 10 and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.’ 11 Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.

12 After this he went down to Capernaum with his mother, his brothers, and his disciples; and they remained there for a few days.

March 2, 2009 Posted by | Family Issues, Marriage, Social Issues, Spiritual | 1 Comment

“I’m Melting! I’m Melting!”

At our church this weekend, our priest was making a point, using water, and he sprinkled various members of the congregation, to a series of “eeeeekks!”

I was reminded of several years ago – we had bought a new house, and our church has a special ceremony of blessing for a residence. As the priest carefully points out, he/she is not actually blessing the house, but blessing the inhabitants – nonetheless, every room has a special prayer, and the priest sprinkles a little holy water in each room.

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As he sprinkled the water in one room, some hit my youngest sister, Sparkle. I watched her struggle not to do it, but she couldn’t resist.

“Ohhhh, I’m melting, I’m melting!” she cried out, like the Wicked Witch of the West in The Wizard of Oz.

Thank God, the priest was a good friend. He paused, looked at me and said “she is YOUR sister?” I nodded. He sighed, before continuing, and said “why am I not surprised?”

March 2, 2009 Posted by | Biography, Character, Community, Cultural, Family Issues, Friends & Friendship, Humor, Living Conditions, Relationships, Spiritual | 6 Comments

Dewey: The Small-Town Library Cat Who Touched the World

I’ll admit it, I was looking for a quick read, and after resisting this book for months, I picked it up. As much as I love cats, I am not that much into cute, nor am I particularly sentimental, and I don’t like having my emotions manipulated. Just one look at the adorable cat on the cover told me it was going to be one of those slick, fairly superficial feel-good kind of books.

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See what I mean? Just look at that cover. Look how that cat just looks right into your eyes. This book is going to suck you in.

This book was a surprise. Yes, it was touching. Yes, it was about a tiny little kitten who almost died, stuffed in a below freezing book-return box in an northern Iowa country library in the middle of one of the coldest nights of the year, and yes, he ends up living in the library for almost 20 years and brightening the life of the people who come into the library. Yes, Dewey is adorable, and funny, and loveable. Yes, the book is an easy read.

It is also, surprisingly, an uncomfortable read. It is not overly sentimentalized. It is also the story of a woman, Vicky Myron, who grew up on one of the northern Iowa farms, and she tells us about the quality of a life that is no longer available in America, how the safe, secure, intertwined family life of rural Iowa has greatly disappeared. The hard times we are working our way through in 2009 is an echo of hard times suffered in rural America, as small farms are gobbled up by the more efficient super-farms, owned by conglomerates, not by families.

She tells us about her physical struggles with a disastrous childbirth, and its two year aftermath, and she tells us about how her marriage to a lovable alcoholic died, almost without her being aware it was dying. She doesn’t spare herself, as she discusses her problems, as a single mother, on welfare, trying to get a college education and raising her daughter, who couldn’t wait to move away from her. She talks about her challenges remodeling an old cement reading library into a modern, airy information resources center serving the town and the surrounding community, at the same time she is working on her Masters in Library Science. She describes her challenges dealing with the town bureaucracy. It is not always comfortable, or feel-good reading. It takes the book out of the superficial, and gives you something to think about.

Intertwined in all of this is Dewey Readmore Books, the cat who comes to live in the Spencer, Iowa, library, and who is eventually featured on TV shows around the world. He responds to requests that he pose, that he perform, he seems to know who needs a little love and is quick to give it – he is a great main character. For me, some of it was also uncomfortable, kind of a stretch – like that the cat would be in the window waving to her every morning when she came to work. Well . . . maybe . . . I’ve almost always had cats in my life, and few have every shown such consistent loyalty. Cats are . . . well, cats. It’s the way God made them. 😉

What I love is that this book is about libraries, and the amazing (mostly) women who run them. These librarians have had a huge influence on my life, and the life of AdventureMan, challenging us to explore outside our boundaries and supporting our aspirations, recommending new ideas and new ways of serving their communities. Librarians are part of the backbone of America.

I read this book in just a few hours. It just isn’t that complicated or challenging; it is an easy read. It has been a #1 New York Times bestseller, and copies of the book are still selling strongly. It currently ranks #105 in all time book sales on Amazon.com – can you imagine how many books that must be? The book is sweet, but #1? I can only imagine so many people are buying and reading it because it looks like 1) a Feel-Good book and 2) an easy read.

February 28, 2009 Posted by | Books, Building, Bureaucracy, Character, Community, Cultural, Customer Service, Family Issues, Financial Issues, Friends & Friendship, Living Conditions, Local Lore, NonFiction, Pets | Leave a comment

Mostly Cloudy Sunrise

Good morning, Kuwait, or is it afternoon? I know most of you are sleeping in a little, after the exhausting celebrations of National Day and Liberation Day.

I stayed home!

Last year, it wasn’t the foam, although I hate the foam. For me, it is parents who allow their children to hang outside the car.

You know me. You read me every day. I’m not an angry person, but seeing parents with children on their laps, children in the front seat and most of all – children hanging out of windows, or with their heads / bodies out of skyroofs – it makes me see red. I want to get out of my car and scold people. It makes me SO angry that people would endanger their children.

There must be a safer way to express all the celebratory exuberance.

It is mostly cloudy outside.

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February 27, 2009 Posted by | Events, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Health Issues, Holiday, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Rants, sunrise series, Weather | 13 Comments

Thoughtful Opposition to proposed new Labor Law

”Segregating between women, men against human values”
Ghenwah Jabouri
Staff Writer

KUWAIT: There have been recent debates about the new Labor Law that is expected to go into motion soon. One aspect of the law, which 43 MPs voted in favour of during its first session, will prevent women working between the hours of 10 p.m. till 7 a.m. Many experts and individuals are questioning this law and challenging it, arguing that such a law goes against basic human rights. This topic is a contentious one and is seen by many as a setـback to women rights in Kuwait. Imposing this law will be difficult and unfeasible, argued many experts.

Labeed Abdal, attorney at law, Constitutional expert, and Head of the International Committee at the Kuwait Bar Association, said that the new draft law was a result of the Parliament, which still included some members who were “against women’s rights and the prevention from working at night, was related to some cases against some clubs and cafes depended in their services on ladies at night. However, this restriction was not realistic, especially when there are many female doctors or journalists and other women professionals that need to do their job in any time of the day.”

The expert went on to explain reactions about the new amendments related to the draft law. “So far, the new draft has received criticism from the local unions, women’s societies and above all the International Labor Organization (ILO), especially on the areas of canceling the sponsorship system, protecting the low paid and house workers, unions for foreign workers and the need to allow group cases.”

In regard to women workers, the law was criticized because it imposed new restrictions on women working at night, where the new law prevented women from working from 10 p.m. till 7 a.m. excluding hospitals.
“This restriction historically, was related to some restaurants, entertainment clubs and shisha cafes, where they depended on some women workers in late hours to attract customers and there were few incidents of women abuse and harassment that took place and was brought to the local/international media and the Parliament discussions,” Abdal explained.

He further said the matter could be organized by administrative measures to regulate those shops and oblige them to make necessary changes; for example, requesting the commercial license to provide the needed security and protection for women workers during the night. And providing safe transportation and to make sure that work in that area of business came after the consent of the worker.

“There is no need to prevent women from working at night in general as there are many professions that requires women to work during the night. These jobs include the professions of: doctors, lawyers, journalists, etc. Any generalization in that case is considered against the principles of equality which were mentioned in the constitution of Kuwait and can be considered as sexual discrimination between men and women which were prevented by the international conventions of civil and human rights and Kuwait has already signed,” the lawyer pointed out.

Abdal added that the new draft came closer to the ILO requirements to protect the working women’s rights. Moreover, it added some benefits which were not previously mentioned especially the benefits and holidays after pregnancy that would elevate equality in the workplace. The new law included some new changes, after the old law which was issued in 1964. The new law was approved in the first debate in the Parliament and will be reـdiscussed by the Parliament in the coming session.

“The new law has some new benefits, like improving the minimum wage, fighting visa traders, and providing more benefits to the working women after pregnancy,” he added however.

“The new Labor Law was long been awaited by labor unions and even from expatriates, especially the minimum wage issue, and we can say that it amended 70 percent of the old law which was released in 1964.”

Maryam AlـKandari, a Political Science Professor at Kuwait University said: “We need to think beyond the law; one cannot practice it as it is. We need to go beyond how much it will affect women and not only the nonـKuwaiti women but also Kuwaiti women.”

“NonـKuwaiti women are living in this society and there is a lot of misbehaviour towards these women and we should care about these women whether or not she is a Kuwaiti or a nonـKuwaiti,” she explained.

The political scientist pointed out that first, people needed to understand whom are they applying this law on; the Kuwaitis or the expats and the reasons behind applying the law and most importantly, “how are you going to apply this law? It is not achievable,” the expert stated.

“I have heard comments from some of the women say that they do not want to work after 7:00 p.m. Unfortunately, the majority of women are very shortـsighted because they are looking for their own interests. This law may work for them but not our daughters. In other words, the law is not practical, and even if it were to go with today”s society it may not necessarily suit future generations,” the academic explained.

“Restricting women”s duties according to time is absurd, and we need to fight for our rights. What we need is some organisations to hold a seminar, and undertake research such as an NGO organisation, socioـeconomic society where not only women but men too will undertake study to determine how such a law will affect our lives in the future and now,” she pointed out.

“Women who practice law, women who are political professors such as myself need to look into this issue more thoroughly, by looking at the weakness of this law and have a conference whereby we make a symposium relevant to the law,” the academic lamented.

AlـKandari emphasised that she was a human being before being a woman. “When you view yourself as a human being before being a woman, you will become more neutral and objective rather than being subjective and shortـsighted.”

The academic further pointed out that society today was very fortunate because the Amir of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia announced recently that he would appoint a woman as Deputy Minister at the Ministry of Higher Education. “That offers us a beautiful relief for us Kuwaitis. We used to be pressured by other societies, whereas now we have been given a wonderful opportunity to move forward; other societies are changing and so should we,” the academic pointed out.

“Ultimately, we need to debate this law through a wider perspective and the new media. We need to address the younger generation by publicising the issue on facebook and other mediums that the younger generation use and not only through television and newspapers. Finding ways to engage the younger generation on this issue is important, this law does not only concern experts and academics, rather it concerns a society at large and everyone should have their say in this topic,” AlـKandari noted strongly.

Thabet AlـHaroun, Head of the International Labor Organization (ILO) highlighted issues dealing with the new Labor Law, saying that issuing it in the private sector became an inevitable necessity after its delay for more than thirty years. “Therefore we are pushing towards its adoption in its final form, even though we have comments on it,” he said.

“In respect to women’s work, definitely the rights as enclosed in the new Labor Law are better than the current applied law, it also carries in its articles more rights for the working women that were missing, and it regulates the work of women at night.”

He added: “The work of women at night is subject to regulatory decisions from the concerned Minister, and I hope that it will not be an obstacle for women in the workforce.”

“Furthermore, the law came to achieve justice and equality and it is in favour of all parties (government, employers and workers). It is a qualitative step towards the application of international labor standards and conventions. Thus, all parties will benefit from issuing this new Labor Law, whereby Kuwait will be able to achieve a main component of sustainable development where women play an important part,” AlـHaroun pointed out.

AlـHaroun pointed out that under the current law, women were not being given their full rights, whereas the new Labor Law considered the fact that women play a significant role in the labor market. “Therefore urging women to engage in the private sector instead of depending on work in the public sector; the new proposed law ensures many rights that might not be flawless, but is an important development for women,” he added.

“In my opinion, and according to my reading of the law, it does not constitute any hindrance to women’s work and does not diminish women’s rights. Even though we have some comments on the new law, this does not call us or women to reject the adoption of this evolving law in comparison to the previous one.

Women could effectively participate in the workers” organizations and prove her ability to challenge and therefore emphasizes that she is an important partner in the social and economic development process. Rights are not granted but it is a right to be seized. No matter how many articles we put either for women or men, if they don”t prove their abilities and commitment in their work and face the challenges and difficulties that cross their paths, then they will not be able to reach their goals,” he explained.

“I would like here to refer to the role of the employers” and workers” organizations in engaging women in various activities and events and opening the way for women to prove their presence enable women to resist the campaigns aimed to distance her and diminish her role as an essential partner of the community,” the official stressed.

The expert further stressed that “real development cannot be attained if women are absent from decision making and taking.”

AlـHaroun further emphasized that the proposed law supported women”s rights and enhanced her presence to a large extent. He remarked: “Moreover, women have to benefit from this significant achievement, and not await any grants, but to work and persevere and strive side by side with the male figure.”
AlـHaroun explained that “The ILO”s theme for International Women”s Day this year is “Work and Family,” and we want a working woman productive and capable of effectively participating in the economic growth. But at the same time, we need women to surround their families, caring for them and be the core of the advanced society. She should be able to combine her responsibilities at work and her role in a happy successful family.”

Brian Katulis, an editor at Freedom House, a United Statesـbased international nonـgovernmental organization, stated in a study entitled “Women”s Rights In Focus: Kuwait, Findings From Focus Groups With Kuwaitis On Women”s Rights,” that the need to “control” women and their sexuality is a frequent part of Kuwaiti men”s discussions about societal change.

“It is at this complex nexus of societal change, with all of the pushes of modernity and globalisation and the tugs of religion and tribe, where much of the debate in Kuwait on women”s rights takes place.”

This article is the first in a two part series which examines a proposed amendment to the Labor Law which would restrict women working between 10 p.m. and 7 a.m. ـ Editor

Last updated on Wednesday 18/2/2009

February 18, 2009 Posted by | Communication, Community, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Interconnected, Kuwait, Law and Order, Leadership, Living Conditions, News, Political Issues, Social Issues, Women's Issues | , | Leave a comment

Khaled Aljenfawi: Tolerance Begins at Home

An extraordinary article from today’s Arab Times:

Tolerance usually begins at home
By Khaled Aljenfawi

Verbally or physically abusing some domestic servants, stone pelting some expatriate passengers and drivers, lack of patience toward some expatriate doctors and teachers, by some individuals, certainly indicate that tolerance usually begins at home.

Already known for its tolerance toward strangers, foreigners and non-citizens, our Kuwaiti traditional society stands upon certain pillars of morality. These moral ideals usually advocate mercy, compassion and understanding toward others. As such, as Kuwaiti citizens, many of us already understand the importance of such moral ideals and many of us live by them. Therefore, we realize that we are integral parts of a larger human family; many of us in fact continue to refuse anti-social behavior directed toward some expatriates.

This being said yet certain individuals in our society continue to verbally or physically torment some helpless domestic servants. Some youngsters pelt expatriate passengers while they ride in public buses; perhaps just because they believe they can do so!

One can add to this the other negative phenomenon common these days of not being patient with some expatriate doctors and teachers and simply opting for the more reckless behavior: verbally and sometimes physically assaulting these expatriate professionals. Such behavior go against our national law and against the teachings of our national heritage. Such negative behavior in fact go against our Islamic tenets!

As a case in point, borrowing from already accepted international laws about human rights, and relying basically on our genuine Kuwaiti heritage of tolerance, officials in the Ministry of Education continue to update our national curriculum to adapt to a changing world. For example, primary, middle and secondary schooling emphasizes tolerance as a way of life in a modern society. Yet what the younger generations are learning at school about tolerance continues to be threatened by the behavior of some.

Intolerance actually goes against the basic teachings of our Islamic faith. As a Muslim society, Kuwait has been welcoming strangers, foreigners and expatriates for tens of years without apparent conflict. This tolerance toward those who are different springs from our Islamic faith, in addition, it originates from our national heritage. For example, one of the most enduring tenets of Islam is the equality among humans: in the Holy Quran, the Almighty say: “We have created you from male and female, and have made you nations and tribes that ye may know one another. Lo! the noblest of you, in the sight of Allah, is the best in conduct. Lo! Allah is Knower, Aware.” (Al-Hujraat-13).

One cannot instill by force tolerance in the mind of a child unless the whole family believes in the legitimacy of tolerance and its importance to its general wellbeing. If a young child learns about tolerance at school and then encounters daily situations of intolerance at home, he/she will find it hard to believe in tolerance. In other words, tolerance in addition to being a moral concept, which reflects the morality of a whole society, will take its roots if the ordinary family considers it as an accepted code of conduct. A Tolerant young person for example, will subsequently be a tolerant father or mother for these parents are already used to tolerance and will ultimately help shape the mentalities of their children.

A child who is already used to voicing his points freely in a safe family environment will find it much easier to accommodate tolerance and accept it as a way of life. Indeed, a child raised in a Tolerant family will eventually become a good neighbor, a good friend and certainly a Tolerant person toward those who are different from him.

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Wooo Hooo on you, Khaled Aljenfawi!

February 17, 2009 Posted by | Character, Cultural, Family Issues, Interconnected, Kuwait, Leadership, Living Conditions, Social Issues, Spiritual | 6 Comments

NonStomped Roses

Thanks be to God for a sweet husband. He knows I love white roses, and that’s what he got me, with one mischievous red red rose stuck right in the middle. 😉

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There is a shop in Kuwait we love, Au Nom de la Rose, where the flowers are always fresh, and beautiful, and put together naturally. AdventureMan says on Valentine’s Day, they were SO busy, but that the man in front of him, holding a bouquet, was trying to get a discount.

(whine! whine! whine!) said the man in front of him.

“Sir! This is not Mubarakiyya! This is fixed price! And you have already paid, why are you asking now for a discount?” said the polite but very very busy and professional manager. LOL!

We asked the manager how she liked working in Kuwait. (I am telling you this because her response was so totally unexpected, and delightful.)

“I LOVE working here!” she said. “The woman I work for, who owns the store, is wonderful to work for. I love my job, and she trusts me.”

She also gets paid a decent wage, and she gets paid on time. This is one of the happiest women I have met in Kuwait.

Au Nom de la Rose has more than one location, but the one we go to is next to Chocolat, next to Tumbleweeds, in that stretch of stores and restaurants near Bida’a circle. Expensive. Worth every fils. 🙂

No sunrise today. I can’t even see the sea. Whatever this is socking us in today – fog? sand? it is not orange, but it is THICK.

February 16, 2009 Posted by | Adventure, Arts & Handicrafts, Beauty, Customer Service, Entertainment, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Humor, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Marriage, Photos, Relationships, Weather | 5 Comments