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Intlxpatr Turns Twenty Years!

Welcome to our virtual celebration, old friends and new.

Twenty years ago on this very day, newly arrived in Kuwait, I joined a very lively, edgy and welcoming blogging scene. It was frightening to me, but I had my reasons. There were bloggers I loved reading – I started by commenting on their posts. It was like a salon, topics and views and opinions everywhere, and also some facts.

There is an old story about Martin Luther, the priest who nailed his ideas for a better church on the door, and while the church didn’t change, the community in which he lived was willing to entertain his thoughts, and slowly, things DID change. When asked why he would take the risk – being called heritical could end to death – he said (in German), “I cannot other.”

Stepping into the blogworld was stepping outside a comfort zone and expressing thoughts some might think better left unspoken.

C’mon in. Here There and Everywhere has always worked to be a safe place for exploring new ideas, disruptive thoughts and how to make things better. We’ve got great virtual refreshments and a safe place to vent 😊.

There’s a little bit of Soused Apple Cake left over from yesterday’s Fish Fry.

For those who, like me, have to be careful, we also have some relatively healthy finger foods:

Grab something to drink 😊

I miss our great discussions, and I miss the liveliness of the old blogging scene. I’m not so comfortable with the arguments and name-calling I find in other outlets, nor the need to be wary of those who are monitoring – and who are they, anyway?

Meanwhile, a good friend mentioned recently how political I have gone.

Honestly, in these times, even the apolitical are speaking out. I heard a priest today talk about his anger at the hijacking of the gospel, used for vengence and not for love. I found it very brave, those strong words. If we don’t speak out bravely now, the crushing forces seeking vengence and control create a world most of us won’t want to live in.

I want a government who subsidizes health care for ALL. I want science to recommend vaccines which improve our quality of life and save lives. I want corporations that have standards to meet for air and water and environmental protection. I want our police to protect the weak against the bullying and violence of those who think might makes right. I want to welcome the stranger, creating new textures and patterns in the fabric of our nation. I want every person’s vote to count. I want responsible, accountable, educated leadership, and congressional decisions created by working together to achieve doable compromises.

“Ich kann nicht anders.”

As a post script – this is my 5,900 published post 😊.

September 6, 2026 Posted by | Adventure, Aging, Blogging, Character, Charity, Civility, Climate Change, Cold Drinks, Community, Counter-terrorism, Cross Cultural, ExPat Life, Food, Interconnected, Law and Order, Leadership, Living Conditions, Political Issues, Relationships, Social Issues, Survival, Values | , | Leave a comment

Shrimp or Clam Salad

This is the salad we are taking today. As a new bride, my far more exprienced upstairs neighbor, Sarah, was always sharing her best recipes with me. More than fifty years later, I still think of her with gratitude when I use one of her recipes.

Today, I intended to do a clam salad, only to discover I had no clam juice! I did, however, have a big package of frozen jumbo shrimp, so I boiled some water, threw it over the shrimp, strained the water after letting the shrimp cook maybe two minutes, and had a tasty shrimp broth to use for the rice.

Sarah, I am blessing you in my heart; we love this salad as much today as the many years ago you shared it with us.

Shrimp or Clam Rice Salad

3 cups freshly cooked hot rice

3 -4 Tablespoons Mayonnaise

2 Tbls cocktail sauce

2 -3 chopped green onions

1 stalk chopped celery

1/2 cup chopped sweet pickle

12 – 16 oz cooked frozen shrimp

or

2 cans whole clams, drained

Cook rice; add solid ingredients (no need to thaw shrimp if rice is hot). Add sauces and very little pepper to the rice. Stir, cover, and refrigerate until cold. Serve on lettuce. Great hot-weather salad; can be used as a main meal.

September 5, 2026 Posted by | Biography, Cooking, Food, Friends & Friendship, Germany, Interconnected, Recipes, Relationships | , , , , | Leave a comment

The End of an Era

“Mr. Adventureman, the papers you have ordered have come!” the manager of the Sultan Center would say, exultantly, to my clueless husband.

“I ordered papers?” he might croak.

“Sir! It is the coated paper for you to use in the microwave!”

“Aha! ” AdventureMan thinks, “my wife has ordered this.”

“Thank you so much!” he responds brightly to the store manager. “We will pick it up shortly!”

Raised with Alaskan frugality, storing for the future, letting nothing go to waste, never knowing when we will ever see (fill in the blank) again, I store my treasures, using them sparingly. Today, I smile ruefully as I use the last of the last roll of waxed paper from Kuwait.

I think microwave technology has improved. I don’t seem to use waxed paper to defend against food explosions as I once did. Or maybe I’ve just gotten smarter?

I’m not buying waxed paper – or a lot of things – the way I once did. I’ve never lived in one place for this long – a place where, if something runs out, I can get a replacement within an hour, or at worst, a couple days. It’s not like when taco chips completely disappeared from every restaurant in Doha for a month, or cream sold out in Tunis as the big Eid approached. The closest we’ve come to a shortage is during COVID, when people hoarded toilet paper for a short time. The lasting result is that my friends discovered the blessing of bidets.

Last month, I actually came close to running out of dish detergent. I have to laugh at myself; in my own funny way, I’m making progress.

September 3, 2026 Posted by | Aging, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Interconnected, Living Conditions, Money Management, Quality of Life Issues, Random Musings, Shopping | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

One Compassionate Captain Changed Lives

From today’s Lectionary readings:

DAVID PENDLETON OAKERHATER

DEACON AND MISSIONARY (1 SEP 1931)

David P. Oakerhater (born around 1850) was a warrior and leader of the Cheyenne Indians of Oklahoma, and led a corps of fighters against the United States government in a dispute over Indian land rights. In 1875 he and 27 other military leaders were taken prisoner by the U S Army and sent to a military post in Florida. There, thanks to the efforts of a concerned Army captain, they learned English, were encouraged to earn money by giving art and archery lessons to visitors, and encountered the Christian faith. David and three others were moved to become Christians and to go north to study for the ministry. David was baptized in Syracuse, New York, in 1878, and ordained to the diaconate in 1881. He returned to Oklahoma and there founded schools and missions, and continued to work among his people until his death on 31 August 1931. When he first returned to Oklahoma in 1881, he said:  

You all know me. You remember when I led you out to war I went first, and what I told you was true. Now I have been away to the East and I have learned about another captain, the Lord Jesus Christ, and he is my leader. He goes first, and all He tells me is true. I come back to my people to tell you to go with me now in this new road, a war that makes all for peace.
 

by James Kiefer

 
Note
: the “military post in Florida” is Castillo de San Marcos in St. Augustine, now a National Monument. Should you visit, you can learn more about his imprisonment there.

Intlxpatr: One brave captain, unnamed, had compassion on a group of indigenous Americans and encouraged them to earn with their skills. He treated them with respect and won their respect in return. Such gentility influenced them to adopt and spread the Christian faith to others. One unnamed captain, reaching out his hand in loving charity, produced more influence than government policies.

September 1, 2026 Posted by | Bureaucracy, Character, Civility, Community, Faith, History, Interconnected, Leadership, Living Conditions, Quality of Life Issues, Relationships, Social Issues, Spiritual | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“The Cruelty is the Point”

I was singing to the choir, complaining to my old high school friend about the tactics and strategies employed by the Trump administration, against immigrants, against the press, and against any citizen disagreeing with this administration’s viewpoint. “It all seems so intentional, so cruel,” I said.

“The cruelty is the point,” he responded. It was short, pithy, but that was weeks ago and I continue to ponder the phrase. I wondered why it sounds familiar – my friend used quote marks – so this morning, I googled it and got this very thorough AI response:

“The cruelty is the point” is a political phrase coined by The Atlantic staff writer Adam Serwer in a prominent 2018 essay. [12]

Origin and Meaning

  • Coinage: Adam Serwer used the phrase in his October 2018 essay, “The Cruelty Is the Point”. [123]
  • Core Argument: Serwer argued that the policies and public behavior of the Trump administration and its supporters were not accidentally harsh or crude, but intentionally designed to cause pain to marginalized groups. [12]
  • The Bond: He wrote that inflicting this pain creates a powerful sense of unity, pride, and shared identity among political supporters, binding them together through common opposition to outsiders, immigrants, and minority groups. [1]

Book Adaptation

  • Publication: Serwer expanded his essays into a book titled The Cruelty Is the Point: The Past, Present, and Future of Trump’s America, published in June 2021. [12]
  • Themes: The book examines how modern political conflicts connect to deeper historical currents in the United States, including white supremacy, migration debates, police unions, and the legacy of the Lost Cause. [12]

Usage and Legacy

  • Political Lexicon: The phrase became a widely adopted descriptor in political commentary to characterize populist movements, harsh immigration rules (such as family separations), and rhetoric directed at political opponents. [123]
  • Broader Application: Analysts and commentators frequently invoke the phrase outside the Trump administration to describe political strategies that rely on outraging rivals and signaling hostility toward specific demographic or social groups. [12]

The original article in The Atlantic states:

“It is not just that the perpetrators of this cruelty enjoy it; it is that they enjoy it with one another. Their shared laughter at the suffering of others is an adhesive that binds them to one another, and to Trump.”

I urge you to read the October 2018 essay, and the book. From the beginning of the second Trump term, from the the very first day with the horrifying Presidential Edicts, the cruelty has been increasingly woven into public policy. The policies are Anti-American, anti-immigrant, anti-women and anti-everything I was taught to believe as I grew up – That we are created and born with equal rights, male and female, black, white, yellow, red and all the glorious colors in between. “Red and yellow, black and white, we are precious in His sight.”

Our priest told us from the pulpit this week that we are “to carry the light.” Each one of us, individually and together, carries the light. We can choose to be kind. We can reflect “the light that shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”

August 28, 2026 Posted by | Character, Charity, Civility, Communication, Community, corruption, Economic Issues, Education, ExPat Life, Faith, Family Issues, Financial Issues, Health Issues, Interconnected, Leadership, Living Conditions, Political Issues, Privacy, Quality of Life Issues, Social Issues, Stranger in a Strange Land | , , , , | Leave a comment

If it’s August, it Must be . . . Halloween??

In the olden days, when we were Cold Warriors, guarding European borders from the evils of the Soviet Union, smart military wives started Christmas shopping in August. We knew we were up against deadlines; any gifts going surface mail needed to be mailed by mid-November. “Last minute” would need to be sent by Thanksgiving, or, horrors, the first week in December, but that is cutting it very close if you want your gifts to actually arrive in time.

You get so you start your shopping in January. We didn’t earn buckets of money, and we could do well by dollar-cost-averaging over the ten months leading up to Christmas. The bases all encouraged us to plan ahead, put things on layaway, make wise decisions – all year round. Knowing the barriers, the custom is to help the service people deal with the challenges of a life of – you know – service.

Finding Halloween had come to our Base commissary the second week in August, just as school is starting, was new to me. We are in the United States! We shouldn’t need to be thinking two months ahead for Halloween!

Pensacola is a Navy-centric community. We have Navy bases here, a solid community of Navy families and Navy retirees, and of course, the beloved Blue Angels. So I am wondering, too – where is the outrage? Where is the pushback when the leader of our nation tells the sailors and their families that they haven’t been in the Straits of Hormuz long enough? Where is the outrage when he dismisses complaints about food shortages, supply shortages, and mental health problems from being at sea for such a long time with no respite?

There are traditions against complaining, so if the grumblings are being heard, there is a real problem. Our military is used to self-sacrifice. It’s the nature of the service. If they are complaining, we can’t tell our military people to just suck it up. We have to listen.

This war has been going on for months, with countless declarations that the war is over and the Strait of Hormuz is open, only to discover, again and again, that it is not true. Over and over, it is another big fat lie.

Wrap it up, guys.

August 17, 2026 Posted by | Biography, Bureaucracy, Community, Cultural, Customer Service, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Financial Issues, Interconnected, Iran, Leadership, Lies, Living Conditions, Local Lore, Marketing, Shopping, Stranger in a Strange Land | , | Leave a comment

When the U.S. Guts the State Department

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The new diminished Department of State showed this slide at a recent global conference, which misplaces every single African Country. Take a look. The Côte d’Ivoire, like it’s name, has a coast. The map shows it is landlocked. The nations are scattered. In Africa, right enough, but with no concern for their actual location. The Department of State took full responsibility and pointed the finger at a young person who OK’d an AI reprentation of the map, and who clearly had no idea where the nations really were.

State Department professionals were once educated. They were once conscientious about presentations. This map is more than inaccurate. It is disrespectful.

Please. Bring back professionalism. Please. Bring back real facts, data, and respectful behavior. Bring back a focus on creating and maintaining diplomatic relationships. Our current representation brings shame and disrespect upon our country.

We are neither feared nor respected “like never before.” The world looks in horror at our tasteless, ignorant, ill-mannered leader’s infatuation with trophies, gilt, flattery, and explosions, at the cost of dignified, peaceful relationships with our allies.

Life is so much smoother with friends, allies, and good will.

If nothing else, get the maps right.

July 30, 2026 Posted by | Africa, Bureaucracy, Civility, Communication, Cultural, Interconnected, Leadership, Quality of Life Issues, Relationships | Leave a comment

How a Grown Up Ends a War and Wins

It is not my intention here to give our current president a strategy for a gracious exit from the War with Iran. I am writing this only because I believe he is incapable of adopting my solution.

Years ago, my very smart husband, AdventureMan and I played strategic board games. One time, I beat him in only six moves, at which point he stood up and stomped his foot (a very strong statement from a normally restrained man) and yelled “You can’t do that! It’s unorthodox!”

And that’s how wars are won. Yes, you can waste billions on sophisticated weaponry, and have a lot of fun with bombs and destruction. High T at work. You can also waste lives, and I believe that is a crime against your country. Our young people are not expendable.

We’ve all started fights we can’t win. It’s wired into us as human beings. What is the way out?

“I’ve made a big mistake. I take full responsibility. I’m sorry I got us into this mess, and now, I am going to do everything in my power to make it right.”

Those words, and the humility it takes to say them, save relationships, re-establish peace, and a firm foundation for moving forward.

It takes a grown-up to say them. It takes a grown-up to even think them. To continue on a losing path is wasteful and self-destructive.

We are not winning.

It’s time to own up, exit, and begin rebuilding our alliances.

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New York’s Participation Trophy for Trump and his Iranian debacle. Everyone invited to contribute; no achievement too paltry to commemorate. The more gilt, the merrier.

July 30, 2026 Posted by | Bureaucracy, Character, Civility, Community, Cross Cultural, Cultural, Economic Issues, History, Interconnected, Iran, Jordan, Kuwait, Leadership, Middle East, Money Management, Political Issues, Saudi Arabia, Values | , , , , | Leave a comment

CrisisGroup.Org

Because I follow – or try to follow – piracy in Somalia, I go down rabbit holes. Some rabbit holes lead you to the most amazing places, including a comprehensive update on an upsurge in Somalian piracy and root causes.

The rabbit holes led me to this fascinating group, Crisisgroup.org. I’m always curious who is behind these organizations – this organization, out of Brussels, seems to keep watch on some far-flung and, to U.S. readers, sometimes obscure potential events, which, when they explode, we wonder why we never heard of these fomenting conflicts.

July 20, 2026 Posted by | Africa, Blogging, Bureaucracy, Circle of Life and Death, Civility, Community, Counter-terrorism, Cross Cultural, Cultural, Economic Issues, Financial Issues, Geography / Maps, Health Issues, Interconnected, Law and Order, Leadership, Living Conditions, Political Issues, Quality of Life Issues, Social Issues | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Image of Ship Traffic in Strait of Hormuz 13 July 2026

Now about that Memo of Understanding ? ? ?

July 13, 2026 Posted by | Bureaucracy, Economic Issues, Financial Issues, Geography / Maps, Humor, Interconnected, Leadership, Lies, Living Conditions, Middle East, Money Management, Political Issues | , , , , | Leave a comment