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Quiet Morning Sunrise

Usually as I blog I can hear AdventureMan singing, whistling or humming in the background as he showers, shaves and gets ready to go to work. This morning, it was quiet.

“Is everything OK?” I asked? Qatteri Cat must have wondered too, because he got up when I did and went back to ask with me.

“It’s fine.” AdventureMan sighed. “I’m just tired of work. I need a vacation.”

It makes me so sad. Not every day is a great day. I love the days when you jump out of bed, excited about the plans for the day. I love to hear him humming in the bathroom as he shaves. I am going to fix him something special for dinner tonight, something he loves – stuffed green peppers. Of course, by the time he gets home, the morning funk will be forgotten and he will have new things going on – thank God, his work has a lot of variety, a lot of scope for his skills.

The sunrise this morning was spectacular:

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It is a beautiful day, Kuwait. 🙂

November 9, 2008 Posted by | ExPat Life, Family Issues, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Relationships, sunrise series | 7 Comments

Drive Safely in Kuwait – or Anywhere

This popped up this morning on AOL News:

Defensive Driving 101
Why defensive driving is so important.
By CRAIG HOWIE | AOL AUTOS

Data from the National Highway Transportation & Safety Administration (NHTSA)
Someone got cut off. They bleeped their horn. You bleeped back. They gesticulated, you gesticulated. And now you’re stuck with a lunatic on your back, tailgating and swerving, keeping up with you with a crazy grimace on his face and trying his best to force you off the road. Whoa there. Not everybody lives in Orange County, Calif. Or Miami, Fla. And maybe you’re the lunatic, who knows? Or perhaps you take a more considered path of action. We’ve chosen eight often overlooked defensive driving tips that hopefully will help ensure situations like this one don’t develop, and which come with the added bonus of avoiding an expensive insurance payment or minimizing the risks of injury or death in a serious crash.

Tip 1: Don’t do unto others
So the crazy-driver pursuit is unlikely to occur, but remonstrating with another driver can not only prove dangerous to your health and wellbeing — remember you may be inflaming a road-rage situation — but perhaps more crucially, it distracts a driver for a split second or longer. The entire event could adversely affect their driving for the rest of the day. Remember: Don’t take it out on others. And though I usually don’t subscribe to the fractured logic of bumper stickers — mean people, and in particular mean drivers, really do suck.

Tip 2: Stay out of the way
One of the first defensive driving tips listed by Dr Leon James, a professor at the University of Hawaii who publishes DrDriving.com, is: “Stay out of the way. Give aggressive drivers plenty of room to get around you.” If another driver is endangering you or his actions are threatening to cause a smash, the best tactic is avoidance, usually by slowing down (with one caveat: always check mirrors before hitting the brakes).

He tells AOL Autos: “One thing to remember is that there is a diversity of drivers on the road. They have different goals for being there — some are in a hurry to get somewhere, others are just looking around or don’t know where they are going exactly and have plenty of time. Others are challenged by sickness, age, drugs, anger, depression, etc. So the best defensive driving advice is to give them more latitude. Let them do what they want at all times.”

Tip 3: Yield
Dr. James also says it is never a given that other drivers will follow the rules of the road, and to never insist on your own right of way if another driver is challenging you. Mark Sedenquist, the publisher of RoadTripAmerica.com, agrees, advocating a “yield anyway” strategy. He says: “Even if the right of way is yours by law, custom, or common sense, always remember that the real object is to get home safely. So when someone barges out ahead of you when it’s not their turn, put your ego and irritation in the back seat and … yield anyway.”

Tip 4: Be aware of your surroundings
Riding Chicago’s L train system to O’Hare Airport alongside the Kennedy Expressway, as I did recently in transit to Los Angeles, gives a great opportunity to observe what drivers get up to behind the wheel: text messaging, applying lipstick, talking on cell phones and reading (!), often at speed. Sedenquist advises keeping an eye out for others’ — and also your own — bad habits. He says: “One major key to safe driving is observing and responding to the unexpected things that other drivers do. Drivers should be scanning the road constantly, both ahead and (in a rear-view mirror) behind. Another strategy is the ‘two-seconds-plus rule,’ ensuring a safe following distance between your car and that car or truck in front of you.”

Tip 5: Overcome overconfidence
Russ Radar, of the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety, suggests overconfidence could be at the root of the problem and also offers a practical approach to safety. “We all think we’re good drivers and it’s all the other drivers out there that are dangerous. We need to examine our own driving behavior: Slow down, obey traffic laws, and always wear safety belts. If everyone did those things, our highways would be a lot safer.”

Tip 6: Take a refresher course
I attended a brief defensive driving course as part of an assignment a few years back and was shocked by just how much my road habits had decayed in a decade or so behind the wheel, perhaps as a result of overconfidence. One-hand steering wheel spins? Please no. Even crossing hands is frowned upon here. Quick to point out and work on combating bad habits, my instructor also offered valuable lessons on everyday road stuff that I’d forgotten, some as surprisingly basic as road position or safely approaching a stop sign or street entrance. It’s valuable in other ways, too: Any money spent on the course may end up saving larger payouts on speeding tickets or traffic misdemeanors — both of which will probably necessitate the taking of defensive driving course, usually in a class or online.

Tip 7: Rest and refresh
The National Highway and Traffic Safety Administration reports that more than 56,000 crashes annually are caused by drowsy drivers. It also suggests some startling characteristics of crashes involving a drowsy driver: The crash occurs late at night or early in the morning; it is likely to be serious; a single vehicle leaves the roadway; the crash occurs on a high-speed road; the driver does not attempt to avoid a crash; the driver is alone in the vehicle. A friend of mine, who crashed a Volvo 850 into highway safety barrels at 70 mph (and thankfully walked away without a scratch) will bear witness that all of these factors occurred in her early-morning smash when she fell asleep at the wheel. The NHTSA says that, young people (ages 16 to 29), especially males, are most at risk. Shift workers whose sleep is disrupted by working at night or working long or irregular hours also face the same risks. Sedenquist, who has tallied a half million miles in his 30 years on the road across America, says “Before you push on for ‘just another fifty miles,’ keep in mind that sleepy drivers can be just as dangerous as drunk ones.” Stay alert, it can save your life.

Tip 8: Take a Zen-like approach
Dr James advises: “The secret of being a “supportive driver” — the opposite of an aggressive driver. Facilitate what they are trying to do. Do not put your sail in their wind. Be a smart driver, a peaceful driver, and be safe and calm that way.

LOL at “Maybe you’re the lunatic – who knows?” 😉

November 8, 2008 Posted by | Community, ExPat Life, Health Issues, Kuwait, Living Conditions | 7 Comments

Good Day, Sunshine!

It is a glorious day – fish are jumpin and well, no cotton, but the tide is running high. 🙂

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It is one of those amazing, sweet, perfect days in Kuwait. My friends, get out there and breathe in the sunshine!

November 8, 2008 Posted by | ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, sunrise series | 4 Comments

Great Kuwait Sand and Surf Challenge: Teagirl

Wooo HOOOOO Teagirl, and her very disciplined, very artistic sand and surf entries, each more beautiful than the last:

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What do you think, Kuwait? Soulful? Beautiful? 🙂 YOU have two more weeks to get those Sand and Surf photos in before the voting begins!

November 7, 2008 Posted by | Arts & Handicrafts, Beauty, ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Photos | | 9 Comments

Is There Still a Ban on Mobile Phone Usage While Driving?

Does anyone remember this:

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For a while, I think the ban was enforced and I think I saw fewer people on their mobile phones. Now – it’s totally back to the way it was before the “ban.” Or do you see it differently?

November 7, 2008 Posted by | Community, Crime, ExPat Life, Health Issues, Kuwait, Law and Order, Living Conditions | 11 Comments

Here Comes the WOW

The rain has been so wonderful, days of sweet, soaking rain. And early this morning, I am delighted to see the sun back again. GOOOOOOOOODDDD Morning, Kuwait. 🙂

Early sunrise:
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Just a little bit later:
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And a happy, sunshine song to lift your day:

The five day forecast is nothing but SWEET:

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Have a great day!

November 7, 2008 Posted by | ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, sunrise series, Weather | 1 Comment

Obama Elected President

I awoke this morning to a new world. This isn’t a political blog; I will not often discuss political events other than how they impact on lives. My family was die-hard Republican until my father retired. During Ronald Reagan’s presidency, it all changed – his domestic policies hit retirees hard. My father was a man who, when we tried to give him ideas how he could pay less in taxes, looked at us and said “Why would I want to pay less in taxes? I served our great country, they paid my salary and now they give me retirement and health care. Why would I want to pay less in taxes.” God rest his soul. But he started voting Democrat – and said Republican policies only helped the very rich, and hurt the middle-class.

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I never thought I would see the day a black man would be elected President in the United States. John McCain is a decent man, he would have made a fine president, and he gave one of the most graceful speeches acknowledging his election loss I have ever heard. May God richly bless him. Obama’s win is very exciting – a new day in our country.

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I called our son and talked with him – barely believing Obama could have carried Florida. I told him how moving it is to me to see a black man elected (no, I am not black, but you know me, I hate prejudice) and he said “Mom, he is SMART, too.” I couldn’t have been prouder of him than at that moment.

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And this is today’s Psalm. I have to share it with you – it seems such a brilliant omen:

Psalm 72

Of Solomon.
1Give the king your justice, O God,
and your righteousness to a king’s son.
2May he judge your people with righteousness,
and your poor with justice.
3May the mountains yield prosperity for the people,
and the hills, in righteousness.
4May he defend the cause of the poor of the people,
give deliverance to the needy,
and crush the oppressor.

5May he live* while the sun endures,
and as long as the moon, throughout all generations.
6May he be like rain that falls on the mown grass,
like showers that water the earth.
7In his days may righteousness flourish
and peace abound, until the moon is no more.

8May he have dominion from sea to sea,
and from the River to the ends of the earth.
9May his foes* bow down before him,
and his enemies lick the dust.
10May the kings of Tarshish and of the isles
render him tribute,
may the kings of Sheba and Seba
bring gifts.
11May all kings fall down before him,
all nations give him service.

12For he delivers the needy when they call,
the poor and those who have no helper.
13He has pity on the weak and the needy,
and saves the lives of the needy.
14From oppression and violence he redeems their life;
and precious is their blood in his sight.

15Long may he live!
May gold of Sheba be given to him.
May prayer be made for him continually,
and blessings invoked for him all day long.
16May there be abundance of grain in the land;
may it wave on the tops of the mountains;
may its fruit be like Lebanon;
and may people blossom in the cities
like the grass of the field.
17May his name endure for ever,
his fame continue as long as the sun.
May all nations be blessed in him;*
may they pronounce him happy.

18Blessed be the Lord, the God of Israel,
who alone does wondrous things.
19Blessed be his glorious name for ever;
may his glory fill the whole earth.Amen and Amen.

20The prayers of David son of Jesse are ended.

November 5, 2008 Posted by | ExPat Life, Family Issues, Financial Issues, Kuwait, Leadership, Living Conditions, Political Issues, Social Issues | | 15 Comments

Great Kuwait Sand and Surf Challenge: Q8Geek

Wait until you see these entries in the Great Kuwait Sand and Surf Challenge. The Q8Geek RULES! These are going to take your breath away.

Look at the gleam on sand and log!
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Oh! Oh! Well done, Q8Geek!

November 4, 2008 Posted by | Arts & Handicrafts, Beauty, ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Photos | | 9 Comments

Soft Sunrise 4 Nov 08

It’s a soft sunrise this morning, still cloudy but not so intensely so as yesterday. It looks like we could still get some rain. At the same time, it is lighter, the atmosphere not so heavy . . . it may turn out to be a gorgeous day.

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Have a good day, Kuwait.

November 4, 2008 Posted by | ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, sunrise series, Weather | 3 Comments

Rosy Rainfall in Kuwait

It’s been a long day, a productive day, and at last I can take a deep breath. My friend tells me it is cold out, but I have had the oven on much of the day, and our place is warm and cozy. I would love some fresh air, so I quietly close the door to the kitchen and step out on the balcony.

It is beyond fresh. It is fresh, and raining, and off in the distance, the sun is setting and the muezzin is calling everyone to prayer and it is purely a beautiful moment.

We didn’t have rain like this last year, or the year before. We had some rain two years ago, in December mostly, but still – not like this. This has been a wonderful, continuous, soaking rain, blessing Kuwait and preparing us for an amazing winter growing season. I would love to be able to see the flowers people tell me are blooming in the desert when it rains.

In Saudi Arabia, we spent a whole day travelling to see the tiny irises that would bloom in Tumayr. Here, there are still places you can’t go, because there are explosives left over from the Gulf War, and now and then a shepherd loses a leg by stepping in the wrong place.

November 3, 2008 Posted by | Community, Cross Cultural, ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Saudi Arabia, Weather | 7 Comments