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Over 45’s Risking Sexual Infections

This is from BBC News but similar news is coming out of the USA – one of the fastest rising rates of STD’s is in the nursing homes and rehabilitation facilities, among the elderly.

Many over-45s ‘ignore STI risks’

STI rates have been increasing among people over 45

Many middle-aged people are continuing to take an irresponsible attitude to their sexual health, say experts.

The Royal Pharmaceutical Society of Great Britain polled over 2,000 adults.

Nearly a fifth of those polled aged 45 to 54 said they had had unprotected sex with someone other than a long-term partner in the past five years.

There is a misconception that their risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection (STI) is “next to nothing”, says the RPSGB.

Sexually transmitted infections have doubled in under a decade in people over 45 and have been rising at a faster rate than in the young, recent figures from the Health Protection Agency show.

Older people are increasingly likely to be single or undergoing relationship changes and are less likely to consistently use condoms, perhaps because the risk of pregnancy no longer exists, experts have observed.

The RPSGB’s survey of 2,258 UK adults – half who were aged 45 plus – found older generations were flippant about the risks of catching an STI.

April 2, 2009 Posted by | Aging, Character, Community, Family Issues, Health Issues, Hygiene, Interconnected, Mating Behavior, Social Issues | Leave a comment

Clever Solution: When Men Refuse to Salute Women

That gives me a huge grin – for every subordinate who refuses to salute a female superior officer, she gets an extra KD50 in her paycheck! This is a very clever solution.

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Published Date: April 02, 2009

KUWAIT: Only shortly after the graduation of the first batch of female police officers, a large number of their male colleagues have put the Ministry of Interior (MoI) in an awkward position by insisting that they will refuse to salute any female officer, no matter how superior her rank to their own. The male officers cited local social values, cultural norms and traditions to justify their stance, reported Al-Jarida.

The ministry must now decide whether to strictly implement the law and force these officers to perform their duties in a professional manner or to take the policemen’s concerns into account and accept their refusal. A recent fatwa issued by Dr Ajil Al-Nashmi which stated that saluting a woman is contrary to local and tribal traditions, is believed to have aggravated the situation, making the male officers’ determination to accept no compromise on the issue even stronger.

One MoI official said that the ministry is considering the options of paying female officers an additional KD 50 on top of their wages for every salute which male colleagues refuse to give them or imposing administrative penalties on the male police officers in question.

April 2, 2009 Posted by | Cultural, Interconnected, Kuwait, Law and Order, Leadership, Living Conditions, Women's Issues | 13 Comments

56,660 Kuwait Car Accidents: 2008

This is a totally breathtaking statistic. Kuwait just isn’t that big. That is more than one thousand car accidents, every week, in Kuwait.

We had three accidents in front of my house this morning. One included a school bus. Thank God, there were no children on board.

I would love to see a statistical breakdown on age groups, nationality, whether speed was involved, and whether the person was using a mobilephone while driving when the accident occurred.

One of my readers reported she had been in a car accident shortly after her arrival in country. A car going too fast rear-ended them. In almost every country in the world, if someone hits you from behind, they are charged, immediately, with following too closely and inattentive driving. You are supposed to be driving carefully enough to anticipate the car in front of you slowing down. Here, after six months, and several trips to the police station, it was determined that her husband was at fault. Unbelievable.

She adds that thanks be to God, no harm came to the infant traveling in the front seat of the car that hit them, on his mother’s lap, or they would have been liable for that, too. Unbelievable.

56,660 car accidents in 2008 alone
Staff Writer Al Watan

KUWAIT: Head of the Traffic Safety Department Bader AlـMatar has warned that the number of annual traffic accidents is on the rise. An estimated 56,660 car accidents and 410 cases of accident related fatalities occurred in 2008. AlـMatar added that the United Nations reports that car accidents claim more than 1,300,000 fatalities around the world each year, most of whom are young men.

April 2, 2009 Posted by | Adventure, Community, Crime, Cross Cultural, Cultural, Customer Service, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Financial Issues, Kuwait, Law and Order, Living Conditions | 3 Comments

Jazeera Customer Service

“Hello! Hello! Do you speak English?”

“Yes, my dear, I do! How can I help you?”

“I am trying to book a flight to Larnaca!”

“What date?”

“I’m flexible. I am trying to book for April 16 to April 23, but when I try to book, they tell me that no flights are available for that day! I have tried every day in April and May! How can there be no flights?”

“One moment, my dear.” (sound of typing and clicks and humm of distant voices)

“The first flight will be in July!”

“Oh no! It shows that Larnaca is a destination NOW!”

“No, my dear, the first flight will be in July. July 4th!”

“No, no, I don’t want July, thank you. How about flights to Salalah? I get the same message!”

“Yes! Yes, my dear, we have flights to Salalah! I can book it for you now! What dates?”

“Do I have to connect through Bahrain?”

“No, no, flights direct from Kuwait.” (sounds of typing, clicking, voices humming . . .)

“How about those same dates – April 16 – April 23?”

“The first flight will be in June!”

(Me, laughing) “It’s a little HOT in Salalah in June! I was hoping for something in April!”

“No, no, my dear, the first flight will be in June!”

“Thank you!” (I hang up laughing. I may not like the news he gives me, but his undisturbable good humor gives me a huge grin.)

April 1, 2009 Posted by | Adventure, Cultural, Customer Service, ExPat Life, Kuwait, Travel | 7 Comments

Gardening Leads to a Longer Life

Back when The Fonz was still blogging, he ran this free test from REAL AGE which I took, full of pride because I lead such a healthy life. Man, did I get a bad surprise, the first of many. First the REAL LIFE people told me my body was one year OLDER than my real age because I don’t like to exercise, and then at my annual physical, my doctor looked me in the eye and said I had to make some changes.

I have. I’ve made some changes. One of the changes is I don’t take tests like that any more!

But REAL AGE doesn’t give up on me. They send me helpful newsletters every week, and I have to admit, they really are interesting, and they really do help me stay on track, like eating oatmeal and drinking green tea.

Today they talk about a hobby that lengthens your life – gardening:

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The Hobby That Leads to a Longer Life

A hobby is more than a way to pass the time. It may be a way to get more of it.

Know which hobby has probably added years to the longest-lived people in the world? It’s gardening. Okinawans — whose men typically live to age 78, women to age 86 — have a long tradition of working with soil.

Flex Your Green Thumb
The benefits of gardening reach body and soul, according to Dan Buettner and his book The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer from the People Who’ve Lived the Longest. “It’s a source of daily physical activity that exercises the body with a wide range of motion and helps reduce stress,” he writes. So, as the ground thaws and the seed catalogues start arriving, make a pact to plan — and plant — a plot this year.

Grow for Years
It’s not a coincidence: There are lots of other wonderful side benefits to gardening besides the body and mind boost. Here are the other garden goodies Buettner notes in his book:

A veggie-packed life. Okinawan centenarians eat a plant-based diet, often incorporating vegetables that they grow.

A bit of sun. Vitamin D, produced by the body when it’s exposed to sunlight, promotes stronger bones and better health. Vitamin D also helps your body fight cancer.

A dash of spice. Mugwort, ginger, and turmeric are staples of an Okinawan garden, and all have proven medicinal qualities.

Older Okinawans are active gardeners and walkers. Walk your way to a healthier, fitter life.

March 31, 2009 Posted by | Aging, Cultural, Diet / Weight Loss, Exercise, ExPat Life, Experiment, Health Issues, Kuwait | 5 Comments

Feast Day of John Donne

In church, on Friday, the speaker was discussing Lenten practices, and told us of a woman who seriously committed herself to Lent, but allowed herself respite on the feast days of the saints of the church. She has one coming up today – the feast of John Donne, a great priest, poet and thinker in the church.

His life is fascinating, and when he falls in love and secretly marries the daughter of the rich and powerful man for whom he works, he is imprisoned. When released, he began preaching, and ended up revered for his work with the church, and his fine writings.

He was also ahead of his times. Here is one of the essays/meditations best known in our culture; it is often read at funerals, and says, as many are saying now – we are all connected. What happens to my neighbor, happens to me. In this earthly world, we are connected in ways we don’t even understand, and it is our duty, as well as our own best interest, to look after our neighbor:

MEDITATION 17, BY JOHN DONNE

NUNC LENTO SONITU DICUNT, MORIERIS

[Now this bell tolling softly for another, says to me, Thou must
die.]

Perchance he for whom this bell tolls may be so ill as that he know not it tolls for him; and perchance I may think myself so much better than I am, as that they who are about me and see my state may have caused it to toll for me, and I know not that.

The church is catholic, universal, so are all her actions; all that she does, belongs to all. When she baptizes a child, that action concerns me; for that child is thereby connected to that body which is my head too, and ingrafted into that body whereof I am a member. And when she buries a man, that action concerns me: all mankind is of one author and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated. God employs several translators; some pieces are translated by age, some by sickness, some by war, some by justice; but God’s hand is in every translation, and his hand shall bind up all our scattered leaves again for that library where every book shall lie open to one another.

As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come, so this bell calls us all; but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness.

There was a contention as far as a suit (in which piety and dignity, religion and estimation, were mingled) which of the religious orders should ring to prayers first in the morning; and it was determined that they should ring first that rose earliest. If we understand aright the dignity of this bell that tolls for our evening prayer, we would be glad to make it ours by rising early, in that application, that it might be ours as well as his whose indeed it is. The bell doth toll for him that thinks it doth; and though it intermit again, yet from that minute that that occasion wrought upon him, he is united to God. Who casts not up his eye to the sun when it rises? but who takes off his eye from a comet when that breaks out? Who bends not his ear to any bell which upon eny occasion rings? but who can remove it from that bell which is passing a piece of himself out of this world?

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promentory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were. Any man’s death dimishes me because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.

Neither can we call this a begging of misery or a borrowing of misery, as though we were not miserable enough of ourselves but must fetch in more from the next house, in taking upon us the misery of our neighbors. Truly it were an excusable covetousness if we did; for affliction is a treasure, and scarcely any man hath enough of it. No man hath affliction enough that is not matured and ripened by it and made fit for God by that affliction. If a man carry treasure in bullion, or in a wedge of gold, and have none coined into current money, his treasure will not defray him as he travels. Tribulation is treaure in the nature of it, but it is not current money in the use of it, except we get nearer and nearer our home, heaven, by it. Another man may be sick too, and sick unto death, and this affliction may lie in his bowels as gold in a mine and be no use to him; but this bell that tells me of his affliction digs out and applies that gold to me, if by this consideration of another’s danger I take mine own into contemplation and so secure myself by making my recourse to my God, who is our only security.

You can read his history and learn more about him here: John Donne.

March 31, 2009 Posted by | Biography, Character, Community, Interconnected, Marriage, Poetry/Literature | Leave a comment

Apache Sunrise

Just a patch of sunrise this morning, as we awake to more of the same – heavy clouds and it looks like the continued possibility of rain. I didn’t hear thunder and lightning last night, but the roads are damp, so I am guessing we had some rain, if not a lot.

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March 31, 2009 Posted by | ExPat Life, Kuwait, Living Conditions, sunrise series, Weather | 9 Comments

Daytime Weather Drama

No sooner had I sent the last post than all hell broke loose. The sky opened up and the rain poured down, Qatteri Cat hid under the table, the lightning danced out over the Gulf, two, three strikes at a time, the wind blew, the thunder roared and my camera had a hard time knowing where to focus. I am running around, trying to capture some of the drama, and eventually things start to lighten up. Qatteri Cat has resumed his spot on the table and watches as things calm down.

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I download my shots and attempt to upload – only to discover – we lost our Internet.

I run the diagnostic programs and it tells me it is the server, nothing I can do, so I work on other projects and come back – maybe an hour later – to discover I’m back up again.

So here is a little of what we saw:

Torrents – real torrents of rain, sheets of rain:
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And here are some drops being blown by the wind:

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And all those little white things? Those things you can see against the dark of the trees? Those are raindrops, except they are more like very long drops!

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I feel like a little kid. It was fun. It was wonderful. I want more! I want more! More!

March 30, 2009 Posted by | Beauty, ExPat Life, Kuwait, Weather | 2 Comments

We’ve Got Weather!

The Qatteri Cat is going a little wild, there is this weird sound, tap tapping irregularly – his eyes are wide, his ears on high alert – what is this? oh, just wait until he gets to Seattle. He will find out what RAIN really is!

We’ve got weather!
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There’s no drama this time, no thunder, no lightning, not even much wind to speak of, but for maybe five full minutes (Whew! That is hugely ‘torrential!’) we’ve had RAIN, serious rain.

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I know my friends and family in Seattle are laughing their bottoms off, that I think this is serious rain. In a dry and thirsty land, where there is no water, this is a serious rain, the best rain we have had all winter. You can see the road is entirely wet, not just little plop-lets, and the wheels of the bus are (going round and round, yes 😉 ) throwing up some spray. Ten minutes later, it is still raining. You’d have to live here to know how sweet that sound is.

March 30, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | 7 Comments

How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?

There really is a “broken heart syndrome” and a recent study, discussed on BBC, finds it can be treated – and the heart can be mended. Read the entire article here.

Medics can help you recover from a broken heart

US researchers studied 70 patients with “broken heart syndrome”, a recognised condition linked to stressful or emotional events.

All these patients recovered, most after being given aspirin or heart drugs, even though 20% were deemed critically ill.

The American Journal of Cardiology study says the condition is probably caused by a surge in stress hormones.

Broken heart syndrome, known medically as Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, was first described by Japanese researchers in the early 1990s.

Even though symptoms mimic those of a heart attack such as chest pain and shortness of breath, broken heart syndrome does appear to be temporary and completely reversible – if treated quickly.

March 30, 2009 Posted by | Aging, Health Issues, News | 2 Comments