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Qatteri Cat

We were flying back to Qatar after visiting our son. It was December, and we would not see him at Christmas; he was in his first real-life grown-up job and couldn’t get the time off for the long trip to Qatar and back. We were desolate.

I turned to my husband and said “I need a cat.” I expected a fight. “You work all the time, and I need a cat to keep me company.”

He said “I need a cat, too.” His eyes were kind of teary.

When we came to Qatar, we came with a 14 year old diabetic cat. When I arrived at the airport, without the right papers, the customs guy told me he would have to hold her overnight while I got the right papers from the Department of Agriculture. I started digging out all the hypodermic needles, and her insulin, and telling him she needed her shot at exactly seven in the morning and seven at night and he looked at me in shock and said “take her! take her!” and I scampered out of there as fast as I could, before he could change his mind.

When she died, the Gulf War was starting. In the middle of an important meeting, my husband came home because I kept thinking maybe she wasn’t really dead. It was heartbreaking. She was like a member of our family. My husband said “No more cats; I can’t go through this again.”

So it was only 9 months later when he agreed we could get another cat.

I went straight to the vet, who said he had just the cat for me. He was the longest, skinniest cat I had ever seen, with a great big fluffy tail like a fox. I adored him.

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When he got home, he wouldn’t have anything to do with me. Every time I came near him, he cringed, and ran and hid. But the minute my husband walked in the door – it was love at first sight. Later on, we met his original owners, and one of the women said “is he still such a naughty cat?” and we said NO! that he was a good cat! The truth was that when he got scared, he would forget and use his claws and teeth. I still have the scars to prove it. It took a long time to teach him to trust again, but now, he is the sweetest and most loving cat you could meet. It just took time.

It took time for him to trust me. Now, he hangs out with me all day, and he loves to curl up with me. I don’t kid myself that this is love – he just loves my warm body and he loves that I feed him.

True love is when my husband comes home. Qatteri Cat can hear him coming long before he opens the door. He will leap from wherever he is sleeping and run for the door, and sit there waiting like a dog until my husband comes in the door. His body quivers with anticipation. He leaps for joy, and runs like a crazy cat around the house, scraping all the carpets into piles as he tries to get a grip on the marble tile floors.

When my husband showers or bathes, the Qatteri cat is there. When he works at his computer, the Qatteri cat is on his desk, or at his feet. He is content just to look at my husband with utter adoration.

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And then, in the morning, when my husband leaves, the Qatteri cat cries. His cries would break your heart. He sits by the door and asks why my husband has abandoned him, once again. And then he goes and gets his babies, one by one, and puts them by the door. Who knows what this cat is thinking?

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November 16, 2006 - Posted by | ExPat Life, Family Issues, Lumix, Pets, Photos, Relationships

9 Comments »

  1. What a gorgeous cat. He looks like he has some Angora in him. My Congo African Grey parrot (or “casco”) is the same way. He loves me, but ADORES my husband. He calls out for him, he fluffs up when he sees him, he regurgitates his seeds for him – it’s kind of funny.

    Stinni's avatar Comment by Stinni | November 16, 2006 | Reply

  2. “he just loves my warm body and he loves that I feed him”

    no comment šŸ˜›

    Purgatory72's avatar Comment by Purgatory72 | November 16, 2006 | Reply

  3. Hi Stinni! The vet said he thought the cat was part Turkish Van. He also seems to have some desert cat in him (he is a real mongrel mix) because he has fur between his paws to protect him from the hot sand/pavement. I think he is just a melting pot cat, but one of those melting pot beauties.

    Does your parrot talk to your husband, too? I think sometimes it’s just a testosterone thing. I know my husband adores Qatteri Cat right back, and plays with him. My husband is the “fun guy”.

    Purg – Cat food. CAT FOOD. I am just staff, he takes me for granted. šŸ˜‰ But I am good enough when the fun guy is not around.

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | November 16, 2006 | Reply

  4. I love cats….so loveyyyyy

    Maze's avatar Comment by Maze | November 16, 2006 | Reply

  5. Kitty! šŸ˜€

    3baid's avatar Comment by 3baid | November 17, 2006 | Reply

  6. oh my goodness, that cat! he was so distressed when you and the khalo were on safari this summer – the babies were taken ALL OVER the house, and there was much disgruntled miaowing over the inferior qualities of my 1) lap 2) petting 3)feeding 4) playing 5) general babysitter-cum-substitute-teacher-ness. out of desperation, he did warm up to me – and we had a terrific two weeks together :-).

    adiamondinsunlight's avatar Comment by adiamondinsunlight | November 17, 2006 | Reply

  7. Little Diamond – We love it that we have a niece who thinks coming to Kuwait to catsit is cool! Maze? 3baid? You do any catsitting? Hee hee hee

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | November 18, 2006 | Reply

  8. What a wonderful post this is! I am intrigued by your cat’s relationship to your husband. And babies…hahaha lovely!

    jewaira's avatar Comment by jewaira | November 18, 2006 | Reply

  9. Lady J – I know it doesn’t sound rational, but I think sometimes it is just a testosterone thing. My husband reciprocates – he adores QC, too.

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | November 18, 2006 | Reply


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