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The Not-to-Do List

I love this meditation from Rick Warren, who sends these out daily from his Purpose Driven Life connection. I was at dinner last night with three well-connected (2 i-Phones, one something else) family members, and I remember thinking (with a grin) that we spent the entire dinner in conversation, and no one was occupied with their phone.

Choosing a simpler life
by Rick Warren

. . . a time to embrace and a time to refrain. Ecclesiastes 3:5 (NIV)

You’d think that living in Southern California means I’m surrounded by people who live a laid-back lifestyle. The truth is just the opposite: Most of the people I know are trying to cram more and more into each day.

For instance, a couple of years ago, I was with a group of friends driving down the interstate. At one point, I looked around and realized most of us were engaged in some activity other than talking to each other. Two people were on their cell phones; another was working on his BlackBerry; and a fourth was focused on his laptop computer.

As a joke, I declared I felt left out. I called the driver, who was sitting right next to me, and we chatted together on our cell phones for a few minutes! The point of our traveling together in the van was so we could grab time to talk face-to-face! Yet we felt pressed to get it all done.

That’s when I realized the truth – we couldn’t get it all done, and God never intended for us to make completing a to-do list the purpose of our lives.

The fact is, there are many things we think we must do that really are not worth doing. My point is this: You won’t simplify your life by getting an electronic organizer. You won’t even find it by convincing your neighbor, who makes Martha Stewart look like a sloth, to give you tips about coordinating your activities while still wearing a perfect dress and pearls like Beaver Cleaver’s mom.

Simplifying is really about choices – prioritizing what is important – and then sticking to those choices no matter how tempting it is to add more to your to-do list. In fact, take those tempting activities and put them on a list of things not to do.

You are the only one who can assume responsibility for your time and clarify what’s really important to you.

Now maybe you’re thinking, “But I have to take care of the kids,” or “I have to get this report done by Friday.” I’m not naïve about the pressures many people feel today, but it may be that those things – your children, your work – are the priorities you keep on your to-do list, and you move other things to the not-to-do list.

July 24, 2010 - Posted by | Generational, Living Conditions, Random Musings, Spiritual


  1. I really like these ideas. Thanks for sharing them. I guess this is what quality of life is about–choosing what’s important to you, and saying “No” to the rest.

    Comment by Mary Mimouna | July 24, 2010 | Reply

  2. I used to be so compulsive, Mary, and I still have my moments, but deep down, I know with all my heart that we were created to enjoy our lives, and yet, we seem to do our best to destroy our own peace of mind. I’m glad you enjoyed this one; I sure did.

    Comment by intlxpatr | July 24, 2010 | Reply

  3. the blackberries, iphones, etc. etc. are proving to be our masters at times, I think. I liked RW’s thoughts…thanks for sharing.

    Comment by Grammy | July 26, 2010 | Reply

  4. LOL, Grammy, you’ve got me on that – what is an ‘RW?’ Actually, I am going to get an iPhone once they have the antenna thing fixed, mostly for those road trips AdventureMan and I love to take. So along the road I can find a place to stay, or how to get to this park or that museum or where did we take the wrong turn??

    Any of these tools – like the internet – in my opinion, can be used for good or neutrally or for evil. It’s a tool – but sometimes the tools take over our lives!

    Comment by intlxpatr | July 26, 2010 | Reply

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