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An Old Dented Bucket

THIS IS NOT MY STORY. 🙂 This is from my long time friend Kit Kat who passed it along to me and I loved it so much I want to share it with you:

THE OLD DENTED BUCKET

Our house was directly across the street from the clinic entrance of
Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore . We lived downstairs and rented
the upstairs rooms to out-patients at the clinic.

One summer evening as I was fixing supper, there was a knock at the
door. I opened it to see a truly awful looking man. “Why, he’s hardly
taller than my 8-year-old,” I thought as I stared at the stooped,
shriveled body. But the appalling thing was his face, lopsided from
swelling, red and raw.

Yet his voice was pleasant as he said, “Good evening. I’ve come to
see if you’ve a room for just one night. I came for a treatment this
morning from the eastern shore, and there’s no bus ’til morning.”

He told me he’d been hunting for a room since noon but with no
success, no one seemed to have a room. “I guess it’s my face …. I
know it looks terrible, but my doctor says with a few more treatments
..”

For a moment I hesitated, but his next words convinced me: “I could
sleep in this rocking chair on the porch. My bus leaves early in the
morning.”

I told him we would find him a bed, but to rest on the porch.. I went
inside and finished getting supper. When we were ready, I asked the old
man if he would join us. “No, thank you. I have plenty.” And he held
up a brown paper bag.

When I had finished the dishes, I went out on the porch to talk with
him a few minutes. It didn’t take a long time to see that this old man
had an oversized heart crowded into that tiny body. He told me he
fished for a living to support his daughter, her 5 children, and her
husband, who was hopelessly crippled from a back injury.

He didn’t tell it by way of complaint; in fact, every other sentence
was preface with a thanks to God for a blessing. He was grateful that
no pain accompanied his disease, which was apparently a form of skin
cancer. He thanked God for giving him the strength to keep going…

At bedtime, we put a camp cot in the children’s room for him. When I
got up in the morning, the bed linens were neatly folded and the little
man was out on the porch.

He refused breakfast, but just before he left for his bus, haltingly,
as if asking a great favor, he said, “Could I please come back and stay
the next time I have a treatment? I won’t put you out a bit. I can
sleep fine in a chair.” He paused a moment and then added, “Your
children made me feel at home. Grownups are bothered by my face, but
children don’t seem to mind.”

I told him he was welcome to come again.

And, on his next trip, he arrived a little after 7 in the morning. As a
gift, he brought a big fish and a quart of the largest oysters I had
ever seen! He said he had shucked them that morning before he left so
that they’d be nice and fresh. I knew his bus left at 4:00 a.m. And I
wondered what time he had to get up in order to do this for us.

In the years he came to stay overnight with us, there was never a time
that he did not bring us fish or oysters or vegetables from his garden.

Other times we received packages in the mail, always by special
delivery; fish and oysters packed in a box of fresh young spinach or
kale, every leaf carefully washed. Knowing that he must walk 3 miles to
mail these, and knowing how little money he had made the gifts doubly
precious.

When I received these little remembrances, I often thought of a
comment our next-door neighbor made after he left that first morning.

“Did you keep that awful looking man last night? I turned him away!
You can lose roomers by putting up such people!”

Maybe we did lose roomers once or twice. But, oh!, if only they could
have known him, perhaps their illnesses would have been easier to bear.
I know our family always will be grateful to have known him; from him
we learned what it was to accept the bad without complaint and the good
with gratitude to God.

Recently I was visiting a friend, who has a greenhouse, as she showed
me her flowers, we came to the most beautiful one of all, a golden
chrysanthemum, bursting with blooms. But to my great surprise, it was
growing in an old dented, rusty bucket. I thought to myself, “If this
were my plant, I’d put it in the loveliest container I had!”

My friend changed my mind. “I ran short of pots,” she explained, “and
knowing how beautiful this one would be, I thought it wouldn’t mind
starting out in this old pail. It’s just for a little while, till I can
put it out in the garden.”

She must have wondered why I laughed so delightedly, but I was
imagining just such a scene in heaven.

“Here’s an especially beautiful one,” God might have said when he came
to the soul of the sweet old fisherman. “He won’t mind starting in this
small body.”

All this happened long ago – and now, in God’s garden, how tall this
lovely soul must stand.

The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the
outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7b)

July 18, 2011 - Posted by | Aging, Charity, Community, Health Issues, Interconnected, Relationships, Spiritual

4 Comments »

  1. Beautiful story. Its been awhile since I last read a good story on a blog. Thanks for sharing it 🙂

    Oh I also loved your story with the tunisian women. Its one of the first posts on this blog, I think. I don’t know why I can’t find it now, but its the one where you invited the ladies into your kitchen to fix some tea coz you didn’t want to leave them alone in the living room. You have a natural talent for writing. You should write more stories.

    Yousef's avatar Comment by Yousef | July 18, 2011 | Reply

  2. Love it , thank you for sharing. really wonderful people !

    Hayfa Al Mughni's avatar Comment by Hayfa Al Mughni | July 18, 2011 | Reply

  3. Yousef, I think that was one of my very first entries – like September 2006. Like almost five years ago!

    Update: https://intlxpatr.wordpress.com/2006/09/06/stunned-silence/#comments

    I like writing the stories down. I started the blog so I would keep a record of things that had happened and that I remembered, and I still do, but it gets complicated when people you know read the blog you know? I think you do, LOL!

    Yousef, please, you know how I feel about the passing of Old Kuwait. Please, YOU start talking to the older folk, keeping your ears open in the diwaniyas, and write down what you hear. Your record may end up being the only written record. Please, write these stories down.

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | July 18, 2011 | Reply

  4. Hayfa, you are often in my stories, and always in my heart. 🙂

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | July 18, 2011 | Reply


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