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Naughty or Nice?

Blogger N. at One or the Other asks readers and visitors to vote on whether they are naughty or Nice? Blogger Fourme, rightly comments that we don’t have any definition of naughty or nice by which to define ourselves and that she will refrain from voting.

Most of the voters are naughty, by the way.

It gave me a big grin.

Isn’t “naughty” or “nice” greatly in the mind of the beholder?

Once, when I was the young wife of a young army officer, I got up my courage and wrote a letter to the editor. It turned out to be a controversial letter; I got one very sarcastic response from the authority I questioned, and then, a week later, all hell broke loose as readers from all over Europe bombed the one who replied. I felt scared, but a little proud to have raised the issue.

I was working in the library. THE COLONEL’S WIFE (that is how we thought of her) walked in and said to me “we don’t get our names in newspapers. It isn’t done.” And then she walked out.

Then I really felt scared. And I really felt naughty. And at the same time, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Sometimes, don’t you have to say something? When you see something that is not right? And is that really naughty?

January 10, 2008 - Posted by | Adventure, Biography, Bureaucracy, Communication, Community, Cultural, ExPat Life, Generational, Germany, Relationships, Social Issues, Women's Issues | , ,

5 Comments »

  1. What if naughty is ‘normal’ to some people ?

    'GreY''s avatar Comment by 'GreY' | January 10, 2008 | Reply

  2. To me naughty can be used in 2 ways:

    1.) With kids, it’s to describe mischievous behavior.
    2.) With adults, it’s kinky.

    Shoush's avatar Comment by Shoush | January 11, 2008 | Reply

  3. And, GreY, what if “nice” is normal?

    Shoush – a grown-up can’t occasionally be mischievous? 😉

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | January 11, 2008 | Reply

  4. I’m sure we all get those moments where we felt naughty, because of something that we did and were secretly proud of but no one knew, or sort of approved of. Isn’t that it really? hehe.

    N.'s avatar Comment by N. | January 13, 2008 | Reply

  5. N – I love the way you are throwing out provocative questions and gathering such a great response on your blog. I guess for me, naughty is venturing into an area that is not forbidden, but neither is it totally acceptable. Most of us try to stay in the “good” column – and from time to time we stretch the envelope. When you stick your head up, you sometimes get swatted! 😉

    intlxpatr's avatar Comment by intlxpatr | January 14, 2008 | Reply


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